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Our “Inner Jerks”

 

 

Recently, I have had a few middle school age clients who needed some coaching in how to deal with their “inner jerk” and the “inner jerk” in others.  These young people are discovering that acting like a jerk is one thing, being mean and cruel is another.  Knowing the difference and knowing how to solve problems proactively matters.

We all have to share space.  Sometimes we have to share space with people who just rub us the wrong way and bring out the worst in us.  These people can, and often do, wake up our “inner jerk”.  It is our job to try and control our “inner jerk” so that we don’t wake up the jerk in others.

Identifying what it means to be difficult is a good first step.  All of us, at one time or another, have been a difficult person to someone else.  The next step is to make a plan of action on how to deal or handle the “jerks” that we encounter in our everyday life.  Using positive self-talk or your inner coach is a great strategy for reminding ourselves that we can walk away before our emotions take over and we “flip our lids”.

There will always be jerks in our life.  You can’t control anyone else’s behavior but you can work hard to try and control your own “inner jerk” and put a stop to that behavior. Learning about how the brain works helps us self-regulate.

 

 

This is a very informative video showing a hand model of the brain.  It is long, but 12 minutes in, he demonstrates to a 13 year old how the brain works and what happens when we “flip our lids”.

Middle school is a tough place.  It is full of jerks, drama, and strong feelings.  Conflicts happen.  Being prepared with a knowledge of how the brain works and a plan of action for dealing with conflict can help keep us flexible and out of trouble.

For more information on the inner jerk, go to http://socialthinking.com

Find more great ideas in Thinksheets for Tweens and Teens and Socially Curious and Curiously Social.  Both are Social Thinking® publications by Michele Garcia Winner and Pamela Crooke.

Best,

Robin

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This Is How We Do It!

 

Saturday is my busiest day now and I change my hat every hour, from 9:30am to 4:00. Kids are available on Saturday and I see 6 clients who present with very different needs.

 

 

Listening to an attention and regulation program while climbing and walking prepares this client to engage with his social group.    http://integratedlistening.com

 

My client loves the concept of Digging Deeper.  He is not a “Big Picture” thinker, so the close reading process helps him to think beyond a list of details.

Read more about close reading at The Literacy Nest blog.

http://www.theliteracynest.com/2013/11/digging-deeper-into-reading-helpful.html

  •       Carefully look at the meaning of the text in a series of rereads.
  •       Give attention to ideas, supporting details, and central themes.
  •       Reflect on meanings of sentences and words. (the language of text)
  •       Not only reflect on their own thinking (metacognition), but reflect on other’s thinking. (the author!)

More on close reading:

  • Close reading isn’t about any one technique, but rather arriving at a goal as the reader.(Shanahan, 2013)
  • Close reading can be flexible. Three or four reads of the text every time may not be necessary, and not every text is meant to be closely read. One recommendation is for teachers to choose one challenging text to close read for every teaching unit.
  • Questioning is key. Teachers need to be VERY familiar with the text and take time to develop questions for each repeated read that will get students traveling to a new place with their thinking. These questions should also help the reader arrive at a deeper comprehension of the text.

https://classroomcaboodle.com/product/digging-meaning-close-reading-wall-chart/

 

 

My young clients who struggle with self-regulation get a kick out of Hunter and they recognize themselves in him as he works hard to stop before responding or reacting impulsively.  The remote serves as a concrete and familiar cue for organizing and integrating the concepts and skills for self-regulation.  http://www.youthlight.com

 

 

 

Characters, Matt, Molly and their friends, show us the expected and unexpected behaviors for a variety of social settings.  Their exaggerated facial expressions and body language help my clients to better understand what they might be thinking and feeling in those social scenarios.  Processing verbal information through reading and matching sentences and pictures provides reading practice, too.    http://linguisystems.com

 

Dr. Erica Warren at Good Sensory Learning, has created workbooks for helping to strengthen visual discrimination,  reverse image reversals, and improve pattern recognition and tracking.  The exercises and strategies included in these products are a welcome addition to my multi-sensory reading sessions.

http://GoodSensoryLearning.com

Have a great week!

My Best,

Robin

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