Learning and Sharing

Blurt Alert!

boy Raising hand in classroom

Social thinking is a dynamic process, so the Lunch Buddies are always working on self-regulation skills. It is so important that they understand what that means for them and what it looks like in the classroom.  Impulsivity is obviously related to sensory and emotional self-regulation. Impulse control develops over time and students gradually learn self-monitoring skills from kindergarten through third grade. When self-monitoring skills are not mastered by fourth grade, students tend to get into trouble on a regular basis.  Verbal impulse control takes longer to develop.  Although it is developmentally expected that 8 year olds occasionally blurt out in class or in conversation, we, as adults, need to be mindful that we teach them the why behind verbal impulse control and the how of self-regulation strategies rather than just telling them to stop!  For more information on how impulse control develops read this great article:

Kids need to learn specific skills to control impulsive behaviors.  Impulsive behaviors are unexpected and affect the ability to function as part of a group.  In the above article, Jennifer Little, a former teacher with a doctorate in educational psychology, lists the following as necessary skills to control impulses:

  • social skills
  • delayed gratification
  • attention and memory skills
  • oral language skills
  • cause and effect
  • risk management

To help promote and develop verbal impulse control we use the following resources:

A script I made using the Smarty Ears app Custom Boards


Blurts are not fair.  Cutting in with words is just like cutting in line.  Blurts are annoying and make classmates feel uncomfortable.

I love this social story from KID CODES



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We must explain why it is unexpected to blurt and model what to do instead.

My Best,









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Tools for Self-regulation











Sometimes we get raised eyebrows and our colleagues are skeptical.  We hear, “yoga is all well and good, BUT…”.  Is it because yoga doesn’t look like “therapy”?  Self-Regulation is an essential life skill and self-regulation is what we see as the primary benefit of our yoga time.  Yoga helps to stabilize emotions, manage stress, sustain focus, and increase peer connections.




The practice of yoga has helped our students become more self-aware.  Most of them can verbalize how yoga supports the regulation of thoughts, feelings, and behavior.

Check out for fun mindfulness and anxiety relief exercises.  Here is a link for alternate nostril breathing A Mindful Minute: A Funny-Looking, But Powerful, Breathing Exercise for Kids | GoZen!

While we are snowed in and probably struggling to self-regulate, try some yoga!













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Growth Mindset vs Fixed Mindset

Signpost "Mindset"


Check out the blog post on Growth Mindset vs Fixed Mindset over at

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What Are You Thinking?

I have question! Portrait curious suspicious young girl student.

There are numerous benefits of perspective taking.  When we consider the world from outside ourselves we are better at problem solving, decision making and resolving conflicts.  Perspective taking is thought to lead to helping behaviors and empathy.   When we can see “the big picture” we are more likely to think flexibly.


Practice makes progress!

Perspective Party is indeed a party.  Such fun practicing flexible thinking when we perceive someone else’s thoughts and feelings in a variety of social scenarios.



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Bubble Talk is a great game for helping kids consider what someone else is thinking or saying in a given picture.  When we play, we use perspective taking to make smart guesses about which caption the judge will choose as the best.








Enjoy the President’s Day holiday tomorrow.  Try to stay warm and fingers crossed for an extended holiday on Tuesday.






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Gas Happens!

child covering his mouth on a white background


Most of the Lunch Buddies are nine and ten year old boys.  So, you know that “gas happens” during our groups.  I was thrilled when I found Julia Cook’s latest book, Gas Happens! What to Do When It Happens to You.  We all enjoyed the book and could definitely relate to Gus’s problem.  The book contains a brief biology lesson and we learned that experts say we all pass gas at least 14 times a day.  It happens to all of us and we need to know how to deal with this natural event the right way.



“Just say, “excuse me”!  or if you are the victim, ignore it.

All creatures pass gas, with 2 exceptions.   Ask your Lunch Buddy to tell you what they are.

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